Marriage

Well, I haven't been writing something every day. I will do better. Today I want to write about marriage - because this is my thing and I can.
I have been thinking lately about what has made our marriage good. Last night after we prayed together I was thinking about the benefit that has been to our marriage - to kneel together, holding hands, and pray every night. If someone was getting married and he or she asked me what advice I had for keeping a marriage good and strong and happy, I would first tell them to pray together.
Another thing that goes along with that is to go to bed together. A lot of times that is the only time we have to talk to each other uninterrupted. I think it is good for a marriage to go to bed at the same time - together.
I am grateful that Chad has been supportive of the idea of dating. I know lots of women would like more dates, but Chad (and I think some of this has been learned as a counselor) is good about dating - a few times a month.
Lots of couples struggle with money. The best thing we have done for our finances is to set a time every week where we pay our bills and talk about money. It is Monday nights after Family Home Evening; usually after the kids have gone to bed. We both hate it. It makes Mondays really long. But it has been SO good for us. It keeps us both informed as to what is going on. It keeps us up-to-date on our bills and obligations and on the same page. I think it is important to talk about money before there is a crisis or some frustration. Having our weekly money time does that for us.
Another thing that has made our marriage happy is that I think we both know that the other person has our best interests at heart. I try to be supportive of Chad when there are things that he wants to do. I think that helps him feel like he doesn't HAVE to demand things. And he is very supportive of me. I know -even when he does things I don't like - that he really wants me to be happy.
Finally, I think it really helps if you can find someone as unselfish, hard-working, fun, helpful, sweet, strong, smart, dedicated, fun, and spiritual as I have. :)